Marriage is much more than a social contract between two people.  It is seen as representing the marriage between Christ and his bride, The Church.    The preface to the marriage service says,
"No-one should enter into it lightly or selfishly but reverently and responsibly in the sight of Almighty God".

Marriage is offered to couples when at least one of parties

  • was baptised or confirmed at Borden
  • has ever lived in the parish for 6 months or more
  • has regularly attended public worship at Borden for 6 months or more
  • has a parent who has lived in the parish for 6 months or more during the partner's lifetime
  • has a parent who has regularly attended public worship at Borden during the partner's lifetime
  • has parents or grandparents who married at Borden
If you do not meet any of these connection criteria then don't panic you can still be married in the church but you must attend for 6 months beforehand.

Those who are hoping to marry at Ss Peter & Paul should contact Fr Robert as early as possible to confirm a date and time and pay a non-returnalble deposit of £100 which will be deducted from the total fees.

The official fees for marriage are set by the Archbishop's Council and are subject to a small increase each year.    As a guideline fees for 2019 are expected to be as follows

Marriage Service (includes publication of banns, sessions of preparation, wedding certificate, organist, verger and floral displays)


Additional services (optional);
Floral pew ends£20.00
Calling of banns and provision of certificate
for marriage in another parish


A useful guide to church weddings can be found at


The Ten Commandments !

Here are some important things you MUST not forget

1. If one partner lives outside the Parish, you must arrange for the banns to be read in their local Church of England Parish Church - then show the certificate to Fr. Robert, usually at the rehearsal but no later than a week before your marriage.  You will need to contact that church at least 6 weeks before your marriage.

2. Pay your deposit as early as possible.  Your wedding will not be confirmed in the church diary until this has been received.

3. Decide if you wish to have orders of service printed and discuss it with Fr. Robert: he will advise what should and should not be included. Make sure that they will be available for collection from the printer some days before your marriage.

4. Make sure you choose hymns and other music as early as possible so that the organist and choir have good time to prepare.

5. Contact Mrs. Nunn (01795 471461) about flowers as soon as possible, to tell her what colours you would like included.

6. Tell Fr. Robert immediately if any circumstances change - such as your address.

7. Arrange for Fr. Robert to sign form PD2 for your honeymoon passport if you are going abroad.

8. Make sure that your rehearsal date is arranged as early as possible so that all the necessary people can attend.

9. You must pay the total fees for your service at the rehearsal or at least one week prior to your wedding.

10. Keep in touch with us before the wedding we like to hear how things are going.